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About the Hold Me Tight® Program
Are you a Christian couple? Get a version of Hold Me Tight adapted just for you! Click the image to purchase a copy.
The original Hold Me Tight book is for everyone, everywhere, and is not specific to any demographic. Click the image to purchase your copy.
What is Hold Me Tight®?
Education on the science behind love relationships and rebuilding strong bonds
Watching video clips of real couples working through these conversations
Dedicated time for 7 transforming conversations, one-on-one with your spouse to improve your connection and your bond
What is the Hold Me Tight® (Created for Connection®) program for Christian couples?
Hold Me Tight® Education, Watching video clips, and Dedicated time for private conversations
PLUS
A Biblical worldview: Created for Connection is Hold Me Tight® material with Biblical principles and insight
What are the Seven Transforming Conversations?
Recognizing Demon Dialogues—In this first conversation, couples identify negative and destructive remarks in order to get to the root of the problem and figure out what each other is really trying to say.
Finding the Raw Spots—Here, each partner learns to look beyond immediate, impulsive reactions to figure out what raw spots are being hit.
Revisiting a Rocky Moment—This conversation provides a platform for de-escalating conflict and repairing rifts in a relationship and building emotional safety.
Hold Me Tight—The heart of the program: this conversation moves partners into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.
Forgiving Injuries—Injuries may be forgiven but they never disappear. Instead, they need to become integrated into couples’ conversations as demonstrations of renewal and connection. Knowing how to find and offer forgiveness empowers couples to strengthen their bond.
Bonding Through Sex and Touch—Here, couples find how emotional connection creates great sex, and good sex creates deeper emotional connection.
Keeping Your Love Alive—This last conversation is built on the understanding that love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection; it asks couples to be deliberate and mindful about maintaining connection.
Testimonials
“My hope is that other couples will come into this workshop with open hearts and open minds, be willing to be vulnerable with each other and not only grow closer in their marriage but also grow closer to God by loving their spouse better. We overcame some things that we’ve been stuck on for, honestly, years. For anyone who is apprehensive or maybe wondering if the money is worth it, let me just tell you, IT IS! I’m confident that this experience will be LIFE CHANGING!”
“I’m not usually the type to share my feelings or be vulnerable with anyone. As men, we’re brought up to be fixers and to fix anything. Part of that is true, as long as you have the right tools to work on your marriage. I’m very thankful for this program. It opened up my mind and my heart to be more understanding to my wife’s feelings. If you find yourself in my same shoes and feel like you’re at a loss for words, I highly recommend this workshop. The cost is an investment in your marriage and your life. ”
